'Domestic violence is NOT Love'
Any behaviour, that is violent, threatening, controlling or intended to make you or your family feel scared and unsafe can be considered family and domestic violence.
The following contacts are Australian based.
Please make yourself aware of your state or country's
family and domestic violence victims support contact phone numbers.
This is not an issue isolated to Australia .
It doesn't have to be this way,
You are not alone
It is not your fault
It is not love
When someone you know is experiencing family and domestic violence, you may want to help but don’t know what to do. The way you talk and listen to them makes all the difference.
It is common to feel unsure about the best things to say and do, but you should never feel too scared to say something.
There are some simple things you can do to support them:
Take their fears seriously.
Make sure they have privacy to be able to tell their story.
Respect their right to have control over what they say and the actions they take.
Domestic Violence is NOT love or respect, it is a deliberate criminal action, controlling and manipulating behaviour all at the chosen/targeted victims expense. The perpetrator is NOT sorry, their actions are planned and deliberate. Like a child abuser, a domestic violence perpetrator, instigates a grooming process which escalates to the intended victim being so controlled the victim does not even realise they are being targeted, being groomed, that they are in fact a victim.
does not realise they are being groomed
does not realise they are being deliberately isolated from their friends and family
often takes on the responsibility for their situation and lives in silence
often lives in denial to the outside world
doesn't have to live this way, there is help available
It is not, and never is, the victim's fault
Domestic violence is assault, a criminal offence, it is perpetrated to deliberately hurt another person
Please view the above video 'Why domestic violence victims never leave'
If this is you, help is available, talk to someone you can trust
Who to contact
If you or someone you know may be affected by family and domestic violence, you can use the following services to find out more information about how you can offer support or get help.
1800RESPECT(1800 737 732)
1800RESPECT is a national sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling and information referral service. It's open 24 hours a day, every day of the year. The 1800RESPECT website also has an online chat function.
If you need to talk to someone you can trust, you can call 13 11 14 or chat, using the Lifeline website. It's a 24-hour support service.
Domestic Violence is NOT love or respect it is Criminal, Controlling and manipulating behaviour, all at your expense. They are NOT sorry, they deliberately chose to carry out the violence, they are the perpetrator. Like a child abuser, a domestic violence perpetrator instigates a grooming process which escalates to the intended victim being so controlled that they think it's their fault. It is not, and never is, the victim's fault.
Make yourself aware of your state or country's
family and domestic violence reporting process and phone numbers.
It you need to talk to someone you can trust within Australia call
Call 1800 737 732
Call 13 11 14